Stop thinking you need people – get it out of your head. Just live your life, beautifully. Make yourself happy because you’re never promised that you’ll find someone who can do that for you. And even if you do find that person – you could loose them. Stop depending on anyone else in your life to determine your happiness and start looking in the mirror at the most important one. Just be patient, and in time you’ll come across someone that feels right. Then, without even knowing it, you will have picked someone who compliments you – rather than trying to find someone who completes you.

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TRUFAX.

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Feels like April lasted a good 3 days…

Language is my whore, my mistress, my wife, my pen-friend, my check-out girl. Language is a complimentary moist lemon-scented cleansing square or handy freshen-up wipette. Language is the breath of God, the dew on a fresh apple, it’s the soft rain of dust that falls into a shaft of morning sun when you pull from an old bookshelf a forgotten volume of erotic diaries; language is the faint scent of urine on a pair of boxer shorts, it’s a half-remembered childhood birthday party, a creak on the stair, a spluttering match held to a frosted pane, the warm wet, trusting touch of a leaking nappy, the hulk of a charred Panzer, the underside of a granite boulder, the first downy growth on the upper lip of a Mediterranean girl, cobwebs long since overrun by an old Wellington boot.

Stephen Fry (via strangephenomena)

What does objectification mean beyond just “treat someone like an object”?

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What does objectification mean beyond just “treat someone like an object”?

 wolfennights

Here is a helpful tidbit on objectification according to feminist theory, which I found here. It gives a pretty comprehensive overview of different kinds of objectification.

Objectification is a notion central to feminist theory. It can be roughly defined as the seeing and/or treating a person, usually a woman,as an object. In this entry, the focus is primarily on sexual objectification, objectification occurring in the sexual realm. Martha Nussbaum (1995, 257) has identified seven features that are involved in the idea of treating a person as an object:

1. instrumentality: the treatment of a person as a tool for the objectifier’s purposes;
2. denial of autonomy: the treatment of a person as lacking in autonomy and self-determination;
3. inertness: the treatment of a person as lacking in agency, and perhaps also in activity;
4. fungibility: the treatment of a person as interchangeable with other objects;
5. violability: the treatment of a person as lacking in boundary-integrity;
6. ownership: the treatment of a person as something that is owned by another (can be bought or sold);
7. denial of subjectivity: the treatment of a person as something whose experiences and feelings (if any) need not be taken into account.

Rae Langton (2009, 228–229) has added three more features to Nussbaum’s list:

1. reduction to body: the treatment of a person as identified with their body, or body parts;
2. reduction to appearance: the treatment of a person primarily in terms of how they look, or how they appear to the senses;
3. silencing: the treatment of a person as if they are silent, lacking the capacity to speak.

Anyone who thinks sex education is unnecessary needs only to go on a fanfiction site and see some of the things people think actually work as lube.